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We are having fried chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy, and green beans for dinner. Donnie asked if we wanted to join them, so I contributed a bag of chicken, and some green beans (I think). Then I asked if we have gravy, could they use my bouillon (Herb Ox, shelf stable granulated bouillon) rather than their Better than Bouillon, to make the gravy.

Why? Because it says right on the freakin' label to *refrigerate after opening*. And Donnie doesn't. Just goes about doing her thing (she ate queso from Qdoba last night that had been sitting out for two days). I asked nicely, and I stated why. And I feel like I kind of got mocked for asking/requesting -- because I was informed that there's "no difference between the two, just the one has more moisture in it, that's why it's a paste, and mine just has had the moisture pulled out of it".

Well, yes. Sort of. But the BtB, after I googled it, contains actual meat within the paste, as well as vegetables. And that is what helps generate the growth of bacteria within the BtB. My HerbOx is dehydrated, and has a bit higher salt content, and it doesn't grow bacteria--there's nothing to help it grow.

I think I have a jar of chicken gravy in the fridge, from when I got a rotisserie chicken at the store a week or two ago. i can use that, if Donnie uses her bacteria farm to make gravy from. Of course, that will probably create all sorts of problems itself, but it's better than getting diarrhea (or worse) that can be prevented. One month, possibly less, before they're gone. Can't wait.

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Yay! and Boo :(

Feb. 25th, 2026 01:54 am
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Matthew's home! He got home yesterday afternoon, and I'm so very, very glad he's home. He has some new meds, and I'm hoping they help him.

I'm also very, very ready to have Donnie and Megan gone. Or, at least, Donnie. I'm so tired of her, and her opinions on everything that is none of her business. And as far as I'm concerned, none of my business is any of her business.

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Matthew

Feb. 16th, 2026 06:31 pm
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If I could have your thoughts and prayers for Matthew, please, I would appreciate it. He's been admitted to Psych at our local hospital, on a 72 hour suicide watch. They're getting him back on his meds -- most of which he's been off of for nearly a year -- and hopefully getting a social worker in to see him. Also hopefully getting him into counseling, because i know he needs that.

I am...not great, but dealing. I'm looking forward to being able to talk to him without crying. I did better, this evening. It's a process, I guess. I cleaned the floor in the living room (what I could), and swept the kitchen, and wiped stuff down. Cleaning is good for keeping busy. Tomorrow is homework day.

But yeah. Prayers, positive thoughts, whatever you can spare. Thank you.

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at what point is it enough?

Feb. 15th, 2026 08:09 am
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Being tested, I mean. And for that matter, who/what the hell is testing me? And why? I feel like I've run some stupid endurance race, and every time I think I'm looking at the "finish line", someone moves it. Or I'm lifting weights that someone keeps adding to.

Matthew started a (new, obviously) job tonight. He had orientation Friday, and then last night (Saturday) started his shift. That shift is 6:50p-7:00a. He texted me about 4:30 that they were sending him to the ER because he was having trouble breathing and his blood pressure was really high (I was on the phone with him just a minute ago when the ER was retaking it; it was 161/126, which is not good. And then Donnie pipes up with, "That's not so bad, I've had like 202 over 140", and I'm thinking this is not a case of higher is better, oy vey).

ANYWAY. The med people there at the factory couldn't decide if it was an allergic reaction to something, or if he was having a heart attack or stroke, or what, so they put him in an ambulance and shipped him to the hospital. He's had an EKG, an x-ray, blood drawn. When they were doing intake he also told them that he was having suicidal thoughts, so they made him change out of his clothes into clothing that was more compliant and easier to keep him safe in. The ER doc wanted him to see a counselor/therapist there, but Communicare (the ones who work with the hospital) has a policy of doing a urine drug screen before they'll meet with a patient. Matthew has a shy bladder. He asked if they could do a blood test, but no, Communicare's policy is urine drug screen. I find myself wondering how they get around this if the person is too dehydrated (or whatever) to do a urine sample at all. Do they just not treat the individual?

Anyway, we talked for a bit. I told him to try and nap while he waits on the doctor. And I'll keep my fingers crossed there's nothing truly (physically) wrong.

I haven't slept yet; I was trying to stay awake until Matthew got home, but I'm moving past tired now, into the next Zone. I'll keep y'all updated.

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This was originally posted to Facebook. I decided I had a better chance of getting a wider variety of responses here.

Facebook, I have a serious question for you, that comes with a little bit of backstory: Last night, while waiting for dinner to do its thing. Donnie, Matthew and I were listening to music on YouTube, each taking a turn to pick a song. And it was good, at first. But, and it's a big one, a lot of what Matthew listens to now very often contains extreme profanity, references to sex acts, drug/alcohol use, regular use of the N word.

I'm not dissing his music, though it kind of feels that way to him, and I did hurt his feelings (I didn't mean to, and I apologized). I had a similar, reverse, thing happen with Doug. And I know that music is intensely personal: even if you like the same music as someone else, chances are it means something different to the two of you.

But so here's my question: After a song in which the N word was used three times within 30 seconds, I stopped the song. Because I just can't. Everything I've heard and taken in through life in general, and particularly in the past couple decades or so, has been YOU DO NOT USE THE N WORD. You don't throw it around in general speech (or you're not supposed to). You're not supposed to accept that word as appropriate for any situation. Don't use it, period.
Except...why is it okay if it's dropped 23048230 times into a "song"? How is that any different from normal, every day speech?

And then Donnie blew my mind by telling me that I'm the first person she's ever heard ask/say that out loud. Surely I can't be the only person who has ever wondered that? Can anyone explain this to me?

And sidebar question(s): for anyone who has adult children, or nearing adulthood children (or family members, etc): what are they listening to? What's in those songs? Do you share musical interests with said young people?

Thanks 🙂

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